It's that time of year again. Time to get that gym membership, quit smoking, and get out of debt. Better get cracking!
I've never been one to set resolutions, mainly because I break them before my Christmas tree is down. (In my defense, my Christmas tree is up for an unusually long time) However, the older I get, the more I let go of those notions of failure and broken promises, and set some goals that will help me go in the direction I'd like to take my life. Because that's what it's really about, laying the foundation for your path. The problem is, sometimes we don't know what our path is, because we're constantly in flux.
It's taken me 30 years to really figure out what's important to me. Once I blocked out the other voices and distractions, telling me what I should want, how I should be, and what I should aspire to - once I quieted those voices - I could hear my own. And this is what it boils down to:
1. Water my own grass, so that mine is always greener: I hate comparing my 'behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel', yet I find myself doing it once in a while. I know social media is fertilized with bullshit, yet in my weakest moments, I fall for it. I vow to focus on my own accomplishments. Set the bar for my personal growth. And value the framed pictures in my home, rather than the ones 'liked' online.
2. Family first: This year took me by storm as I stepped into motherhood with more strength and grace than I ever gave myself credit for. It wasn't until we took a family selfie one day, that I realized myself, my husband, and my son are our own little family. We are my most prized possession, and I aim to make us the beginnings of our legacy. That goes not only for motherhood, but also for marriage - because anyone out there who is married, knows it's one of the most difficult and ongoing things two individuals can attempt to do well together. But I plan to strive. #3Muskateers
3. Foodie Diet: Not to count my calories or weigh myself every day. But to stop denying myself one of the greatest pleasures in life. Instead to embrace meals, cook with loved ones, indulge in new healthy foods, and break bread with friends and family more often.
4. #Fitspiration: The postpartum body can be hell on your psyche, especially if you were a string bean before. But rather than focus on losing 10lbs and getting a 6-pack, how about this - Get up everyday. Start with some physical fitness. Get strong inside out. Challenge myself. Spike my endorphins. Work out with my kid so he forms the same healthy habits.
5. Passion Project: I will dedicate more days to doing what I love. Spend more hours on what matters rather than the mundane. I will throw myself into my work, and fake it when it's not a roaring fire - because passion can sometimes turn lukewarm.
6. Be Selfish: This one is tough. As a mother, we tend to put ourselves last, but there's no reward for that. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of your family. There should be no shame in taking some time out for yourself, continuing to chase your dreams, viewing yourself as an individual, and just loving yourself - so I think I will!
Happy New Year to you and yours, and all the best in 2016. We are a constant work in progress - so don't quit.